Good Morning Lovelies!
Check out the first Song of the Week of 2016 here! Have it playing while you read on about my journey towards self love!
I say journey towards self love because it really is just that, a journey. I do not see an end point where I am completely in love with myself, who I am and where I am in life. It is an ever evolving relationship that is as important to work on as any other relationship in life; possibly even more important.
As chronic pain warriors it can be a near-impossible task to love yourself. There are so many things we can’t control about our bodies from the limitations they put on us, to weight gain, or our hair falling out in clumps thanks to the many medications we have to take to prevent anxiety, pain, or death. I struggle with the reflection I see in the mirror every day. I hardly recognize the woman before me; the dark circles under my once bright blue eyes, the new acne of my cheeks, the paleness of my complexion, the clothes that are getting tighter every day. This woman has been through an internal disaster, but she is a fighter.
Self love is more than just being alright with your reflection, however. It’s loving who you are as a person. I’ve done many things I’m not proud of but everything has led me to where I am today. And everything I’ve been through has changed me, and hopefully it’s for the better. I’m stronger than I ever knew possible and more compassionate than ever before.
The importance of Self Love is necessary to get you through the hard times- and there are many of them when you live with these conditions. It can be hard to find people to stand by you, with you, or for you when you’re battling chronic illness, but I guarantee that if you do find a tribe who loves you as much as you can learn to love yourself, they will be the right people. Know what you’re worth, and that is a value you can only determine when you take the time to sit down with yourself and get to know who you are. Colour, read, listen to music, write, whatever it takes to look inside yourself and love the person you are.
I have an affirmation I say to myself every day. If you have one already that’s awesome! If you don’t, feel free to use mine until you think of your own (or keep using mine if you like it!).
- I am beautiful
- I am a warrior
- I am never alone
- I can make the world a better place.
I know it’s simple but that’s all it takes. I place stickers around the house and they’re just little dot stickers but they remind me of my affirmations. When I see them, I say my affirmations and am reminded that I’m a kick ass spoonie warrior!
Keep fighting, friends! You’re worthy of love, friendship, and compassion!