When I began writing about my Chronic Pain Problems I used the username On the Bright Side of Courtney because my goal was positivity. I wrote for a website called Positivity in Pain and I smiled and laughed my way through these illnesses… for one post. And then I could not move past the sadness I was feeling. I was having a really hard time faking happiness when I wasn’t feeling that way, but that only made me more upset. I am a writer! I can write joyfully! Right? Not at that time.
After that, I stopped trying to fake the funny. I gave in to my sadness and frustration and expressed the feelings I had. And people responded in the best way possible! They could relate to my words because they were feeling it also. After a few of those posts my husband would read them and comment how upsetting they were and ask me if I was alright.
I was then reminded that I am actually a pretty happy person; life isn’t all bad, even if the illnesses are making it seem that way.
My tagline is Finding the Funny in Chronic Pain, and I do love to laugh, but sometimes positivity is not possible. Sometimes breaking down and getting angry and overwhelmed and just crying is necessary to move past that moment. Living with these illnesses is not fun, but you can try to find the funny.
I call this Practical Positivity. You don’t have to smile all the time and pretend that your pain is like being licked by a kitten. But you can think that kittens are adorable and imagine how cute they’d look playing with penguins. Finding the funny or cute or whatever it is that makes you happy, is the key to surviving chronic pain. And even if you can’t find a single thing happy or funny today, maybe you can tomorrow.
In case today is your day, he is a photo of a kitten and penguin:
Love and Spoons xx